When a grandparent moves into assisted living, the transition can be confusing or even scary for children. They may not fully understand what’s happening or why, and without guidance, they may feel left out of the process. This post helps families navigate those conversations with empathy and age-appropriate language.
Why This Conversation Matters
Big changes in the family impact kids more than we think. If they’re not included in what’s going on, children might worry, feel abandoned, or assume the worst. Talking openly can ease their fears and help them maintain a strong bond with their grandparent.
Tips by Age Group
Different ages need different approaches. Here’s a simple guide:
| Age Group | How to Talk About It |
| 3–6 years | Keep it basic and comforting. Say, “Grandma needs extra help now, and this place has nice people who can take care of her.” Use drawings or picture books. |
| 7–12 years | Be honest but reassuring. Let them ask questions and talk about how they can still visit or call. |
| Teens | Include them in the move. Ask if they want to help decorate the new room or set up video chats. Validate any frustration or sadness they express. |
Ways to Keep the Connection Strong
Here are a few easy ways to help children feel involved and connected:
- Bring kids on visits or video calls
- Have them draw pictures or write notes for their grandparent
- Share updates about the grandparent’s routine or new friends
- Let kids help pick out decorations or gifts for the new room
Extra Support
Children may still feel a sense of loss or worry. If needed, consult a pediatric therapist or school counselor. For more guidance, explore resources from the Child Mind Institute or KidsHealth.org.
When children feel included and informed, they’re more likely to respond with empathy, resilience, and love. A few thoughtful conversations can help them adjust—and continue to build memories with their grandparent in this new chapter.
